What’s Love Got to do with it?

Posted by Leigh on September 21, 2011 in love |

I’ve been singing that in my head all week.  Tina Turner can rock the house but those lyrics are not really what this series is about.  Actually, I guess those lyrics are a perfect example of the direction that the world is going.

“What’s Love Got To Do With It”

You must understand
That the touch of your hand
Makes my pulse react
That it’s only the thrill
Of boy meeting girl
Opposites attract

It’s called attraction, you smell good, you look good, you sound good, so I am attracted to you.  Works the same way with fresh baked bread, that “new car” smell, coffee, etc.  It’s a chemical reaction.  Something appeals to my senses and I am interested.  Ms. Turner hit it right on that one, love has nothing to do with it.

It’s physical
Only logical
You must try to ignore
                                        That it means more than that

If you want to get hurt, if you want to experience just the physical, yes, you should try to ignore that it means more than that.  The physical aspect of love…that’s not love.  Love is what you do.  Logic explains away the emotional aspects and makes it physical, which is lust or sex.  If you ignore what God says, and act on the attraction, mistaking it for LOVE, you wind up taking little bites out of your soul.

Oh what’s love got to do, got to do with it
What’s love but a second hand emotion
What’s love got to do, got to do with it
Who needs a heart
When a heart can be broken

Love, a second-hand emotion?  If something is second-hand, that means it is used.  If I continue to give my heart away, I can become emotionally bruised, broken, and depressed.  It is not the love that was used, it was me. By trying to turn the physical into love, love doesn’t become second-hand, I do.

It may seem to you
That I’m acting confused
When you’re close to me
If I tend to look dazed
I’ve read it someplace
I’ve got cause to be

Acting confused, looking dazed.  I have been in many relationships where I would get all wrapped up in the guy.  I couldn’t think, I was giddy, excited, nervous.  I just KNEW this was love.  That’s a chemical reaction.  It is normal but if you mistake it for LOVE then you make mistakes and decisions while you are confused and dazed that can result in years of doubt, regret, confusion, and shame. Wait until your thoughts clear. Do not make ANY decisions while you are dazed and confused. Get to know the person.

Attraction is what brings you together, LOVE is what makes you stay.

There’s a name for it
There’s a phrase that fits
But whatever the reason
You do it for me

You can lust after someone or something.  You see a car you like. You wish you had it. The car is an object and what you are doing is lusting over it.  If your eye falls on a girl or a guy and based on what you see, hear, or smell, you decide you like him/her.  It’s the SAME feeling. We have decreased the power of love by labeling things LOVE that are not, diluting it.  Realize that LOVE is what you do, every day, a decision you make, Every day.  Then you will realize how everything else pales in comparision.


I’ve been taking on a new direction
But I have to say
I’ve been thinking about my own protection
It scares me to feel this way

New directions.  Own protection?  Sounds like sound advice.  I don’t think Ms. Turner meant it this way, but for me I did take on a new direction.  I started thinking about my value, as a mother, as a wife, as a daughter and as a daughter to my God.  I started thinking about protecting my heart, and my mind.  Protection comes from wrapping something up.  A mother from the day she conceives her child protects that child by sheltering it within her body. She protects.  She loves by her actions.  We must wrap up our hearts, our minds, and protect them and recognizing what love is and what it is not is a major part of that process.


What’s love got to do, got to do with it
What’s love but a sweet old fashioned notion
What’s love got to do, got to do with it
Who needs a heart when a heart can be broken

If LOVE is not a part of it, then what you are experiencing is not of God because God is LOVE.  The world has become so confused about this.  It is ALL ABOUT LOVE.  Not about rules, not about what you can and cannot do, not about judging someone, or pointing your finger.  It is ALL ABOUT LOVE.  God wants us to LOVE EVERYONE.  EVERY


That’s it.  No matter what.  LOVE EVERY ONE.  How would that change our mindset?  Our desires?  What we say?  What we do.

“What’s Love Got To Do With It?”….EVERYTHING. 


1 Corinthians 13

Posted by Leigh on September 19, 2011 in Uncategorized |

1 If I speak in the tongues[a] of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. (1 Corinthians 13:1)

We have started a new series at my church called Love.  1 Corinthians 13 is considered the “Love” chapter.   I knew 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 sort of.  I think it was read at my first wedding. 

My pastor said yesterday,

“You have to know what LOVE IS NOT in order to know what LOVE is.” –Matt Fry 

Think about how many marriages could be saved, relationships mended, children encouraged if we knew what LOVE was not. 

I am a speaker.  I love to talk and tell stories.   I was 4 when I sang “My Favorite Things” in preschool and wore the pink dress with little white raised polka-dots my grandmother made.  My first taste of performing.  People smiled and they clapped.  I was hooked. 

I’ve performed throughout my life.  Some good, some well…we tried.  The words I spoke were words someone else had written for a character.  I could bring them to life, but they weren’t MY words.  Perhaps it was entertaining.  Perhaps the lines I parrotted made people laugh, or cry, or even ponder an idea…but they weren’t MY words.

Now when I speak, whether it’s from the stage or at my kitchen table I speak out of love.  They are MY words, in a way.  They are the words God lays on my heart to say.  They are words that I can love because they are words I have learned due to my past and the mistakes I have made.  The words that I speak now, if they are not being said to build up or encourage, the noise that I hear flowing from my mouth is very much like a clanging of cymbals. 

Cymbals clang because the person welding them does not know how to use them.  Words clang (hurt, tear down, destroy) because the person speaking them does not know how to use them. 

Words are powerful.  Words can be weapons.  Words can make music.  Words can destroy.  Words can heal.  How do you use your words?  How do you add to the lives of those around you with your words?  Do you speak with words wrapped in love to your husband or wife?  Do you add to or take away from your children by the words that you speak?  Do your friends come to your for advice because they trust your words will be spoken in love and truth. 

Or…do you speak truth, and speak it loudly…but the words, they are harsh, hurtful, and even if they are true, they are not spoken with love and so they hurt, they wound, or even destroy.  You might be right with what you are saying, but HOW are you saying it????? 


Are you a clanging cymbal?  Or do your words add to the music of someone’s life?

Pastor Matt challenged us to do 4 things this week:

1.  Read 1 Corinthians 13

2.  Start The Love Revolution by Joyce Meyer

3.  Perform random acts of kindness throughout the week.  (This is a website I found with some great ideas.)

4.  Join a connect group.  (Connect groups or small groups have just started at most churches, find one that speaks to you and dive in!)

It’s time we all stopped being a clanging cymbal and used our words to speak love into the lives of those around us and into our own lives.  What random acts of kindness will you perform this week.  Ask God to show you one thing, one person that you can impact in love each day.   



Stuck (part 2) Kinda, sorta, maybe, or not.

Posted by Leigh on September 9, 2011 in Uncategorized |

I said to come back tomorrow and maybe you did, and I left you hanging.  I’m sorry.  I say that a lot lately.  I’m sorry.  I’m sorry I didn’t do ______.  I’m sorry, I forgot ________.  I think this is a symptom of being stuck.   I am having a hard time getting motivated.  Anyone else been there?

I had written another post and went to upload it but for the first time ever WordPress had a fatal error, and it ate my post.  No I hadn’t saved it.  (I know..hush).  Maybe it was a post God only meant for me because I’m still stuck.  Still trying to get my balance back (not only from the broken leg) but just in life.  Have you ever just felt off kilter?

Out of balance, off, a bit askew.

I’m taking a tagent right now but hey, if you know me, that’s actually pretty normal.

When I broke my leg a few months ago walking on crutches and with a brace on my leg messed up my gait.  I was using muscles in a way I wasn’t used to, I had tendons and ligaments that were being pulled in abnormal ways.  Not only did I have the pain from the fracture to deal with, but then my hips hurt, my back hurt, my other leg started bothering me, etc.

The fracture healed.  X-ray looked great, but my left ankle started hurting.  Due to  having to favor the right leg stress had been put on the left.  The tendons in the left ankle started fighting back, swelling, inflammed, painful.

All because one thing wasn’t right, it set the stage for a domino effect for everything else.  We have two legs, two eyes, two lungs, etc. When things work together life is smooth, but when part of the whole breaks down, or gets stuck, or thrown off-kilter…what does that do to the whole?

It impacts everything.

My body had to stop.

Rest and reevaluate. See what could be done to gently and slowly, rebuild, reform, and redirect those muscles and tendons back to where they belong.  (Why do I keep listing things in threes? )

That’s what God’s doing in my heart, in my spirit, and in my soul (threes again).  He is rebuilding those cracks in my heart.  He is reforming those habits that pull me away from Him.  He is redirecting those thoughts that wear me down.  

In order to rebuild something, you have to tear down what was there.  That can be painful.

Lets start working on rebuilding and see where it takes us.  Reminds me of Nehemiah.  I’ve been hearing a lot about him recently.  Perhaps that’s where we need to start.

Challenge:  Read Nehemiah this week.

Write down any ah-ha moments.

What do you need to rebuild?

What do you need to tear down in order to rebuild?

Gonna go think about this for a while.  See what God reveals.


Be blessed my friend,






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